Reflection

I would like to reflect on the theme of nonexistent father figures or male figures in families. We experienced this theme throughout the book, Sula. We talked about how the reason the females in the book were lost and had no strong feelings for men or did not know how to love men was that they had no father or dominant male figure in their life growing up. Sula herself had no male figure growing up and she just had sex with everything walking. She met plenty of men, but did not want to nor did she long any of them. She finally met one she cared for, but her reason for liking him was so awkward. She says in the book that her reason was because he listened; not the gifts he brought nor the sweet things he said to her.
Why is that same theme prevalent in today's society? There are plenty of women out there today that did not have a father figure growing up. Not to say thats why, but they still do not know how to treat, love, and care for a man. The true reason may indeed be deeper than that. Maybe it is because they never been around men and never got to experience what men like and how to love them. Maybe it is because they have malice in their heart and do not really what to care for them or love them. Regardless of the reason, there is definitely a problem there. The only thing we as a society can do to help that is be good parents. Mothers have to stop chasing good men away and love a good one when they come around. Fathers have to be fathers, they have to take care of their responsibilities and love their family.